This week I am focusing on memoirs–or more accurately, what they are and how to write them. I have written about this in the past and today and tomorrow I am going to share two posts on the topic that I wrote a while back. If you are like millions of others who are thinking of writing a memoir, I hope you will take a look at these posts. They contain valuable insight and some excellent advice.
Many of us at one time or another have been tempted to write our “memoirs.” Perhaps it was a family member or a friend who said: “You need to write your memoirs–you have led an interesting life.”
Perhaps you have lived a fascinating life. Perhaps not.
But a lot of people “feel” they have lived a life worth writing about. The challenge is to share that life via compelling storytelling.
Wrapping your life up inside a book that is easy and fun to read sounds easy. It is not. To do it well you need to know how to employ the fundamentals of the writer’s craft. And you can’t do that unless you know what those fundamentals are. (I will get to those fundamentals in Part 2 of my Writing the Memoir post. Stay tuned!)
For now, I want to focus on identifying just what a memoir is and what it is not. In this post I will explain what essentials a memoir should contain; what literary devices you should employ and how you should employ them; and why it is important to build tension with strong, emotive scenes and vivid imagery.
There are three critical things you should remember when writing a memoir:
1. Memoirs ARE NOT autobiographies.
2. Memoirs tell readers who we are, how we became who we are, who we once were, and what beliefs and traditions fashioned us.
3. Memoirs use the techniques of fiction to create a compelling narrative. They utilize all of our senses to create texture (sight, sound, smell, taste, feel). They employ pacing, tension, point of view, scenic composition, and vivid imagery.
When I say memoirs are not autobiographies, the two genres do share some similarities. They are mutually founded on truth, and both require plenty of research, which can range from face-to-face or telephone interviews to journeys to hometowns and other places we once lived, to digging through old diaries, scrapbooks, letters, and photo albums.
So what are the fundamental differences?
An autobiography focuses on the overall path of a person’s life. It almost always starts at the beginning and advances linearly to the end. An autobiography feels more like a historical document with lots of facts and specific dates. It strives for factual, historical truths and it typically is written by a well-known person.
A memoir focuses on a significant fact, idea, incident, or choice we made in our lives. It can begin anywhere and can nimbly shift in time and place. A memoir feels more confidential without the concentrated fact-checking. It strives for emotional honesty, and it can be written by anyone with a good story to tell.
Beginners in this genre often confuse memoirs with diaries. Memoirs are NOT diaries writ large. A diary is something we write to ourselves. It contains lots of personal sentiments and opinions that we don’t necessarily want others to know. Few of us would want our deeply personal diaries published for the world to see.
Learned such a lot from this excellent post.
My novel grew out of a draft for a memoir about my experience of internet dating in my sixties. I have been talking about this development as if a ‘novel’ is a more complicated and finer thing. Next time I give one of my talks I will draw on this new understanding – so many thanks!
Ron will be very pleased to hear this. Thanks so much for responding.